Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My partner and I are getting married this winter. Her style is chic, tailored and ambiguous, while I favor more casual attire (like jeans with a cool T-shirt or dressy shirt). We are having trouble deciding what to do for our wedding, especially with our personal styles being so different. What should my partner and I wear for our wedding? 

Answer: The good news is, you are welcome to wear whatever you’d like to for your wedding. Generally I advise couples to first consider the venue. If it’s a more formal, upscale location, consider dressier looks. For outdoor, home-based, rustic or otherwise more casual, attire can follow suit. Same sex and non-binary couples need only to consider that, plus their personal style preferences and the color palette for the wedding décor. Anything from gowns, cocktail dresses and fabulous jumpsuits to suiting and even jeans is all acceptable. You can also feel free to do double gowns, double suits or double of something nongendered. It really is up to you! Just inform your guests of the suggested attire, be mindful that whatever you decide, your individual outfits don’t clash with one another and you’ll be dressed for success.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.