Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: I got engaged recently and while we’ve shared the news with our closest family and friends, we’ve held off on making a broader announcement. Several friends and family members have had to postpone or cancel their weddings over the past year due to COVID-19 and we want to be sensitive to their feelings. What’s the most pandemic-sensitive way to share engagement news?

Answer: Congratulations on your engagement! It’s thoughtful of you to consider the feelings of your family and friends who have had to deal with COVID postponements and cancellations. Before making the announcement, get in touch with those who have had to make those decisions, catch up and check in. There’s no need to share the news with them during this conversation, unless they bring it up. (It’s possible that the cat is out of the bag.) Once those calls or emails have been made, send out your engagement announcement in the usual formats (publication announcements, postcards, email, social media). The point here is to cushion the news with that check in, so that they feel less left out when your official announcement is made. As always, keep kindness at the heart of your communications and planning and you can’t go wrong.


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