Wediquette Wednesday: When do we mail out rehearsal dinner invitations?

Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue.


Question: My fiancé and I are getting married here in New Orleans, but we have several friends and family members coming in from out of town. In addition to our immediate family, officiant and his spouse and the wedding party, we plan to invite the out-of-towners to join us for an informal seafood boil rehearsal dinner at my parent’s home after the rehearsal at the church. When do we mail out rehearsal dinner invitations?

Answer: What a fun alternative to a formal rehearsal dinner. It’s thoughtful of you to include the out of town guests as well and points for remembering the officiant and his spouse. It’s customary to get the rehearsal dinner invitations in the mail three to six weeks prior to the date. Include a note that it’s a casual seafood boil, so your guests know they don’t have to dress up for the occasion.


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