Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My sister recently got engaged and she asked me to be her maid of honor. I’m really excited and can’t wait to help her with the planning and throw her a shower and a bachelorette party. I’ve never done this before though, so I’m a little unsure about the scheduling for the shower. When should the bridal shower take place?

Answer: What a fun time for you, your sister and your entire family. Typically showers are held three months to three weeks prior to the wedding. Since there are often multiple showers, be sure to coordinate with anyone else hosting a shower, so there aren’t any double-bookings and to space out the shower dates. Also, consult with your sister on the best dates and times for her and on the wedding and reception guest list, to ensure that you don’t invite anyone to the shower who isn’t invited to the wedding and reception. Finally, compare lists with the other shower hostesses so that, apart from the bridesmaids, there aren’t duplicate wedding and reception guest invitees, since each shower is usually for a different group of friends, family or coworkers.


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