Wediquette Week: How can we ensure a dress code is met?

We are almost through the week and Thursday brings another “Wediquette” question from our readers and fans of the series from “Let Them Eat Cake” blog. Today’s question focuses on fashion – specifically, how to make sure your wedding dress code is met by all guests.

Before we head into the etiquette question answered by resident “wediquette” expert and blog editor Melanie Spencer, make sure to catch up on the past three days of “Wediquette Week” here.

Question: Is there any way to ensure everyone dresses appropriately? (For example, if I want to keep guests from showing up in pajamas, jeans, sweats, and so forth)?

Answer: We can’t control other people, but we can offer guidance. It’s always best to be direct with guests when it comes to locations, times, dates, services provided by the couple and anything that’s expected of them, such as wearing specific attire. This way, guests know their role and what to expect. When it comes to attire, include the information in more than one place. For example, on the wedding website, on the wedding invitation at the lower left or right corner of the invitation or the bottom center or in a separate details card included with the invitation. The wording is up to you, but here are a few examples: ‘Dress in Cocktail Attire; ‘Dress Code: Cocktail Attire; or ‘Cocktail Attire.’ Formal, Garden Party or again, whatever you wish, can be substituted for ‘Cocktail’ in these examples. Finally, ask attendants, as well as close family and friends to spread the word about attire. 

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