Each Wednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)


Question: My fiancé is from New Orleans and I’m from New York. My family members live there and all of his live here. We want everyone to be able to attend and don’t want to leave anyone out of the festivities. Where do you have the wedding if half of the attendees are from another state?

Answer: It’s lovely that you want to include all of your loved ones. The couple gets to decide upon the location. So, if you decide on New Orleans, it’s slated to be a fun destination wedding for your family. If New York, it will be a Big Easy in the Big Apple shindig. Either way, the choice is yours, but you will have to brace yourself for a lot of “regrets” for a variety of reasons, from your family members who can’t make the trek. Whether it is for financial, health, family obligations or any other reason, everyone who can’t make it gets a pass and no hard feelings. Whatever you decide, be sure to get your save the date to the out-of-state invitees about six months in advance, so they have plenty of time to plan for the travel.


Do you have a solution to share or a wedding etiquette question? Respond in the comments or email Melanie@MyNewOrleans.com.